I’ve come across some interesting stories, commentary, and subsequent comments all dealing with… Biracialness! Big shocker, right? I love reading the comments. So many different opinions, which simply reinforce my will to stay with my self and stand confident in my personal ideology.
Rant and Rave Rant to the women on the bus who, when asked to quell their use of expletives around my young children, disparaged me for having a biracial family and insulted my daughters’ hair. Rave to the man who told them my request concerning their language was valid and that they had no reason to insult me and my family. Thank you, sir.
JUST ASK AND LET THE OTHER TO ANSWER IT FOR YOU
How do I tell my mum I’m having a mixed race baby?
the baby is going to be half black but i don’t think my mum or my family would be too happy about it.. I want my family to accept the baby but what can do I to make them accept my unborn baby…
5 Responses to “How do I tell my mum im having a mixed race baby?”
all you can really do is explain to them as much as you can to get them to understand, but even at that it might not change their minds, but if it doesn’t then just say it’s my baby and no matter what it is going to be family and they’ll just have to get over it.
Charles J says:
You don’t. I would recommend getting an abortion. No one likes a half-breed.
just tell them straight up…they probably be very mad at first but sooner or later they will adjust to i
Due 12.3.10 says:
just tell her its ur child..
R.I.P Michael Jackson says:
u don’t have to they will c it when u have it………….
Run, Racists, Run! Biracials Are Everywhere!
By Sam Watson
Gone are the days where the majority of people will shout racist remarks at those of color on the streets. It still happens, but nowhere near as much as in the past. Racists are kind of afraid to spew their hatred in public, and I feel us biracials are to blame. We represent an abomination to racists. An old, white guy- a complete stranger- once saw my mom (white, Ukrainian) with my sister and I, when we were very young children, and he shouted, “Slut!” at her. We’re mixed – half white and half black. We represent an absolute breakdown of a racist’s hateful beliefs.
…Racists don’t know whether or not the “white” person next to them is either mixed or married to someone of a different race. Racists better up their paranoia levels, and warn the town sheriff in Bigotville. During the World Cup, I turned to my seemingly white co-worker, and started ragging on the Mexican team. She instantly scowled at me in return. I forgot! She’s half white and half Mexican! Even I- a biracial- was fooled! We’re everywhere, now, and this is a racist’s worst nightmare.
-You are right. When it comes to black people, they now hate themselves much more. All of us are mixed up with something. We are one human race. Our race is different from that of the animals, not each other.
-A study I heard cited recently encouraged parents to discuss race and racism with their kids. Several families dropped out because they were so uncomfortable with this requirement of the study.
The study discovered that racism is not discussed at all in many progressive, liberal households. The idea is that if we’re all supposed to be colorblind, discussing race, or any difference for that matter, is taboo. Of course, that’s the best way to make it a dark, secretive thing- precisely the problem. People who desperately want their kids to be not just tolerant, but accepting, are practically guaranteeing their kids get no exposure to the subject by pretending it’s not there.
Racism and bigotry is a vampire- it can’t stand the light. If we want it to die out, we have to do the uncomfortable, inconvenient thing and talk about it even when it’s not a major in-your-face problem.
-I am half German (white) and Puerto Rican (brown) and I always baffle people. I think it’s interesting that we assume that racism is disappearing when I feel like it is only growing. In an all colorful nation I still feel like I need to watch what I say when I am naming a race ~ whether it’s politically “correct” or not because I never know who is going to be offended.
-You better believe we are everywhere. Though I know I’m not the only unique biracial person out there, I do admit that people are surprise when they hear that my mom is from Dominican Republic and my father is from Afghanistan. Talk about fusing two totally different cultures.
I also understand when you talk about racism being a private thing. My step mother is racist, even though she’s married to my father. It makes me mad when she makes stupid comments regaurding race. She also tries to inplant her ideas on my half brother. I try my best to counter these thoughts though… my diverse background has raised me to be open to new ideas, cultures, and people. The more people who are biracial, the more tolerance we have of one another.
-Racism is still alive but it’s a endangered species. I say this because the current generation doesn’t hold race as important as the previous ones. Most of my friends (I, myself included) have bi-racial children. At times I wonder when these kids grow up will that look at their peers and ask in shock “You’re not mixed?” I think it’s a great thing, however as parents we still need to pour our cultures into the children, letting them know they have and even more extended set of roots and the beauty contained within both.
-Racism is part of human nature. Embrace it!
-I’m old enough to have seen overt racism, as well as the more prevalent covert racism. Sometimes I feel that the only hope we have to eradicate racism is the gradual blending of all races into an “everyman.”
-I was recently showing off pictures of my friends in New York to some people here. They nodded politely at all of them, but paused at a picture of two my best friends.
“What race are they?” I was asked.
I couldn’t believe it mattered. A lot of my previous pictures had been of people who were black or Asian or of some non-white race, but these two mixed-race girls came into question?
“Er, she’s Romanian and Jamaican, and she’s Indian, Portuguese and Italian.”
“Oh, okay.” The guy replied. “I just couldn’t figure it out.”
Why should you have to?
It really pains me as a grandparent to think that there are people out there who would shun a grandchild because one of its parents was of a different race or nationality. Unfortunately, this happened to a friend of mine in the late 1960’s/early 1970’s. He married a wonderful girl who was Mexican/American but his mother (who was from the South) couldn’t bring herself to accept her and wouldn’t have anything to do with them after that.
The couple later had two beautiful daughters who grew up to be lovely, exceptionally bright and accomplished young women; one became a physician. Their white grandmother missed out on so much by clinging to her prejudices. How sad…
Oh wow and yuck. What’s sad but true is that having grown up in with South and experiencing blatant/verbal racism, I find that subversive/unspoken racism is a lot more damaging. And it’s especially appalling when people express their bigotry through the anonymity of the internets.
But on a positive note, my boyfriend (white) and I (black) have had some encouraging experiences where strangers have come up to us and commented on what a beautiful, loving couple we are.
I have Puerto Rican friends who despise the fact that they are Puerto Rican, and the brown type that even the light/white Puerto Ricans distance themselves from. They would rather call themselves Spanish and when I point out that it was the Spanish who enslaved the Puerto Ricans for 350 years, sold them on the auction block like cattle. she dismisses that as fancy. She considers herself a bonafide white European Spanish woman when she clearly is not. I have a Spanish co-worker who bristles with rage whenever anyone mistakes her for Hispanic.
I’m really happy that I found this site, I’ve been really needing to vent with people who really can understand. I’m 39 been all over the country and experienced just about everything(except true love and death) with that being said here I am in all my traveling I end up settling in alabama! This has gots to be the most racist,hateful and low level of education on the planet. But all in all I’ve been having the most trouble dealing with the african americans, I’m from queens newyork my mother is from russia my father is from off the plantation somewhere in south carlina. I really hate to say it even though I feel for my black people because of what they been through(slavery and all that)but white people always treated me better then the black people treated me. They would say “you only got that job cause you lighter then everybody” (holla at me someone just to let me know if I’m trippin or not) the black russian!
We’ll maybe you’ll allow a “racist” to speak.
Actually no your mom is a race mixer; period.
I believe there is something special about the preservation of different “races” (or what scientist call “population”).
I don’t want to see it end. The reasons there are differences amongst peoples is thousands of years of evolution. It is interesting that humans are willing to go such distances to preserve subspecies of other animals but not of humans.
You’re right. The more and more people become the same, the few who aren’t will become more vocal to preserve what they love.
It is interesting that you talk about racist being haters yet all I hear is hate. “Ha ha suck it racist! I’m bi racial! I’m proof that you are going to loose!” Which is an ironic statement in and off itself. While you label yourself as “bi-racial” you hate of people who want to preserve a specific gene pool.
It is part of human nature, you just proved it with your very statement and post. I believe you need to look in the mirror.
While you may have your views, I suggest you at least listen to the other side. Then again, lets see how tolerant you. Then again you’ll your version of tolerance is “those who only agree with me get to post here.”
I am bi-racial… American Indian and white. My husband is from Southern India. Neither of use know ANY southern Indian men married to white women.. we have a little concern how our children will be treated in India. Hopefully things will be easier for us than it was for the early biracial marriages in the US. Peoples views change in time. My own families reaction to our wedding really surprised me. My mother brags to everyone how beautiful our children will be. And my grandmother told all the relatives how attractive she thought my husband was the first time she met him. Thats moms side of the family for you… the other side (from the south.. I’m afraid to say…) is a different story. Though we do have supporters in that side of the family my own fathers mother refused to come to our wedding or acknowledge that we are even married. While its true that things change in time… some people obviously just require more time to become accepting than others. In the US we have never met with ANY discrimination at all. We have yet to see how we will be met in India. May we be blessed with an easy transition!
*sigh* Ben, you are ignorant and you always will be.
Biracial/multiracial people continue to grow in number…deal with it.
The whole idea of “Biracial” is abslutely rediculous. 90% of America is Biracial. French and Irish are two different races, that makes biracial children. Kenyan and Liberian are two different races… that makes biracial children. SKIN COLOR has nothing to do with race. I’m white and happen to love people with medium to dark skin. It’s not a matter of “oh he’s Mexican” or “He’s Morroccan” it’s a matter of preference towards that skin color. It’s the same eas having a preference towards eye color. It’s a COLOR. GET. OVER. IT.